"They had no chance." She is stern but I can see that this is even hard for her to say.
"That makes me feel better about the choice we made." It doesn't.
"Even if you had made it to 24 weeks, with that infection, they would not have survived."
A pause.
"Thank you for helping us make the right decision for them."
She has tears in her eyes now.
At least I let my boys die with dignity.
I'm so sorry for your loss!
ReplyDeleteI also lost my baby at 26 weeks from my first IVF cycle due to placental abruption/infection. She lived 1 day but the infection and prematurity took her away. Your boys are just BEAUTIFUL. Know that you are not alone in this journey.xo
ReplyDeleteThank you. I am so sorry to hear about your loss as well. Hugs to you and your family.
DeleteFunny how two little words put together can be comforting and heart wrenching at the same time (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteThose boys have the best mom. I'm sorry and I know it hurts.
ReplyDeleteThat is what our dr. said when we got the results from the lab. It didn't feel like that to us, it felt/feels like if we could have just kept my cervix from dilating they could have made it... I am trying not to have magical thinking b/c what is, is but it's hard. Thanks for posting on my blog and sharing yours. Reading others women's blogs with similar stories is comforting somehow.
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